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Hearing the Heartbeat!

Friday, July 29, 2011 - Posted by Danielle at 10:03 AM
Yesterday was a big appointment! We got to meet our midwife and hear a heartbeat!!! We were so excited to go to the appointment; even though I already know I'm pregnant and obviously have all of the symptoms, there was just something about the heartbeat that made what already is real seem VERY real!!

We met our midwife and she is incredible - we enjoyed her so much and are very excited to be working with her. Then she said we could do the heartbeat first (we weren't even positive that we would get to!) She had me lay back, started running the doppler over me and within a few seconds we heard a heartbeat! Mark and I looked at each other with excitement and she goes, "Nope...that ones yours!!!" Ha! So she kept trying to find it and finally she got a look on her face like she felt it. She asked if we did - not a bit! It couldn't have been for more than a couple seconds and she was already able to tell us how many beats/minute!! She said, "Well, I know I heard it, but I want the two of you to hear it!!!" She said we have a sneaky baby in there because it was a struggle but after a few minutes, we heard a consistent heartbeat that we were both able to recognize. INCREDIBLE. It just made everything real - there REALLY is a little life inside!!

Mark was watching a show today where in one episode, this guy was excited because he was going to be a dad. A few episodes later, he shared that they weren't able to find a heartbeat and ended up finding out she had miscarried. We are so incredibly thankful that we were able to hear that heartbeat!! What a blessing.

We have our next two appointments booked now - next one not real exciting, but on September 22nd we will be finding out gender!!! Can't wait!!!!!!

As for date night tonight, the crib is in!! We're going to pick that up and set it up tomorrow...pictures to come!

11 Weeks!

Sunday, July 24, 2011 - Posted by Danielle at 4:49 PM
It's been a fun week!! We have had a great time shopping at baby stores and scoping out Craigslist for good deals to start filling the nursery! We've been finding as much as we can without knowing the gender. This week we got the stroller put together and we found a great deal on Craigslist for a video baby monitor for only $15!! The idea of a used breast pump completely grossed me out at first but when I really did my research in it, I learned that it's actually quite easy to make a used pump sterile. I found a set online - pump, everything to make it "sterile" again, and lots of little extras - about $400-$450 worth of stuff and we got it all for $150!! Even weirder was the fact that of everyone we could have bought this from, we showed up at the house to look at it and it was a lady I had interviewed with for a job several months back! Small world!!

Physically, I've been feeling better this week as far as nauseousness. The biggest thing for me this week is how incredibly exhausted I am. I feel like the tiniest little activity just makes me feel completely beat. Thursday, I came home for lunch and took a 25 minute nap, got home after work and napped for an hour, fell asleep on the couch at 8:00, Mark told me to head up to bed and I didn't wake up until my alarm went off the next morning! I'm hoping my energy will return soon; I look around the house and see so many things I need to get to but I just don't have the energy right now!!

Big events this week...we bought the crib yesterday (yay!! It's the one in the last post) and this coming Thursday is our midwife appointment where we will HOPEFULLY be hearing a heartbeat!!!

Belly-wise...yesterday I had a bit of a meltdown. I had been trying and trying to find something that would fit and look cute. I tried on so many outfits yesterday and between pants not buttoning and feeling like I was falling out of every top, it wasn't a fun event. After trying on one pair of tight capris and getting dry heaves and another pair actually making me throw up, Mark helped me find something that whether cute or not, wouldn't make me sick!!! It seems just crazy to me that my pants already don't fit, but...there's some that definitely do not!

As people have asked about twins, I remember that great Friends episode... have ya seen it?! I love Erica's reaction...


We'll keep you posted after the Thursday appointment! Thanks for stopping by!

Nursery - Beginning Stages

Tuesday, July 19, 2011 - Posted by Danielle at 5:32 PM
Now that the garage sale is done, the nursery could finally be cleaned out! One night Mark decided to start assembling the glider and ottoman while I finished clearing everything out of the room and closet. One night kicking it in gear and we're done...for now!!

So far the nursery is a little boring, but really, it's so enjoyable just to sit and know that THIS is the room!! Since buying our home, it's been "that will be the nursery some day!" Well, "some day" is here!! After getting everything assembled and cleaned out that night, I sat in the glider reflecting and praying over our future, our baby, and us. Mark came up and joined me a few minutes later with a "picnic"...everything to keep me from getting sick!! We sat and enjoyed animal crackers and ice water while reflecting on what the room really means now.



We have been looking and looking for a dresser/crib combo that we like. Well, after lots of looking, we realized that as much as we wanted the double dresser/changing table combo, it just makes more sense to invest in a higher quality convertible bed since it will get more wear and need to last longer. Realistically, even though we like the double dresser idea, there just isn't room for it either. So, crib it is and we will hopefully pick up a cheap changing table on Craigslist!!


The crib we are leaning towards...

Getting crafty!!

Posted by Danielle at 4:59 PM
In California, I learned from a couple friends some beginner lessons on crochet. Since then, I have tried to get interested in knitting, but it's just not for me! I love the look of knit, but I really enjoy crochet more. Regardless of how much I've wanted to have interest in it, the other part is that I've had no real "reason" to make anything. Well, now I have a baby to crochet for!!!!

Yesterday, I finished my very first crochet project!! I've started a couple projects in the past, but never finshed them. Something with this project gave me a little extra motivation!! Between my lessons a few years ago, and YouTube, I didn't do too bad... hopefully my next will be better!

Baby's First Outfit

Posted by Danielle at 4:42 PM
For the past year, before mom even knew she was going to be a grandma, she's been wanting to shop for baby. I've told her that I want baby to look like a boy, or look like a girl...I'm not a fan of the yellow and green! So, now that she finally can shop, she has been searching to be able to find little things.

So far, her and dad got us a puzzle and puppet from a toy store. This weekend, mom, grandma and I all went shopping for a little while and mom had "Kohls cash" to use up. She refused to buy anything for herself and said she would only buy maternity clothes for me or something for baby. Well, she found an outfit...baby's FIRST outfit!!!

10 Weeks & First Appointment

Posted by Danielle at 4:32 PM
10 weeks already!! We have now graduated to prune size! Yesterday was our first appointment, aside from the one when we had it confirmed. All in all, it was a fairly lame appointment...nothing real exciting. LOTS of questions about family history and health history, weight, urinalysis, and blood work. Not so fun. Good news is, everything I've been feeling so far is normal and we get to go back next Thursday to actually get things started. This appointment was an intial appointment with the intake nurse; next week, we get to meet our midwife, have the initial exams done and MAYBE get to hear a heartbeat...we're hoping!

Week 10 has been about the same as week 9...maybe feeling a little bit more sick. I'm consistently nauseous through the day, and sick once or twice a day. I've also been getting more and more tired this week.

Never happened before...

Wednesday, July 13, 2011 - Posted by Danielle at 7:27 AM
Évery morning around 10am, a co-worker and I take our "oatmeal break.". We did the same today, were busy getting our oatmeals made, she sat down and then I grabbed mine from the microwave and sat to join her. I looked at the oatmeal and said "I'm not feeling so great all of a sudden!" She said "Oatmeal doesn't look or smell so good today?" It wasn't 30 seconds later that I was sick in the bathroom right next to the break room. I came out and said "Well, sorry for ruining YOUR appetite now too!!" She goes, "Yeah- just trying not to think about it...I'm not the one with the strong stomach! You better!?" That had definitley not happened before...embarassing, but atleast she has 3 kids of her own!!

9 Weeks!!

Sunday, July 10, 2011 - Posted by Danielle at 1:23 PM
First of all, a huge thanks to all of you for the love that you've shown us in all of this; from your comments, to e-mails, to all the excitement you've shared with us. We could not be more grateful to have such an incredible support system in our great friends and family. So thank you!!!!!

9 Weeks!!! For the record, I HATE this picture! But for purposes of documenting everything, here it is. It was just one of those days...didn't feel pregnant, just felt fat and no matter how many times we snapped a picture, didn't like it. Alas, here's the 9 weeks picture! I'm thinking I need to stop wearing black shirts for these shots...everything just kind of blends, and I need to find a new wall - yellow isn't so flattering!! However, I feel like in the past week, the "bloat bump" has disappeared a little bit. Pregnant gals I talked with said you get the bloat bump, then you're back to the "flat" stomach (ha! right...) and then onto the preggo belly. Well, I think I'm clear from the bloat stage!

This week has been a bit of a challenge for me. Thank goodness for a great hubby, ginger snaps, peppermints and water because they've definitely helped me through the day-sickness. I don't know how many of you know at this point, but when I was about 12 years old, I was diagnosed with a neurological disorder. I was diagnosed with a form of seizures very different from what the word "seizures" brings to mind for so many people today. I'm still completely alert, no convulsions on the floor or anything, but the best way I can describe it is a "deja vu" kind of feeling, or as my doctor calls them, "auras". The biggest problem that I have with them is that afterwards, everything just seems a little foggy and my memory isn't nearly as clear as before. Within a week or so, I'm usually back to normal. When I was 12, after lots of searching, my mom and I found an absolutely incredible doctor who has been so amazing in helping me get through it all...with medication. About 6 months before talks of "trying" started with Mark and I, we decided to try to have me get off the meds. While the medication doesn't cause any "major" effects to the baby, the biggest effect was cleft lip. We decided that major or minor, we didn't want me to be on meds. Through the 6 month trial, everything went so great and God was so good - I felt wonderful. Being pregnant was going to be something entirely different though. A few years after I was diagnosed, they linked it to being hormonally related. Well, in pregnancy, hormones are all over the place, so we weren't sure what to expect. While my neurologist and family doctor both were convinced that things would actually be better during pregnancy, there was still no telling for sure. This week has been a very rough week with it. Why am I being so candid with it all?? Because I feel like there is so much power in prayer...and prayer in numbers!! We would just covet your prayers during this time as we figure out how to get past them, how to live through them, and what to do to prevent them while not on medication. Today has been a better day, and I'm sure tomorrow will be even better. I'm just still aware that I've got awhile to go.

On a more positive note...our garage sale went WONDERFUL!!! We had so much more stuff than I even thought we were going to have. My mom was a huge help to Mark and I, setting everything up, marking last minute items and running it with Mark while I worked Friday. We actually ended up making about $500 which is incredible and will be a great help for all of the purchases we have coming up!!

Last week, we went and bought the stroller. I had decided on an Eddie Bauer one that I liked at Target, Mark decided on a Safety 1st one at Babies 'R Us. I've got to say, as much as I've not liked Babies 'R Us because I think they are so over-priced, they really do have great quality products, and the people there are so incredibly helpful. Anyway, we told a salesclerk which 2 we were debating between and she was brutally honest telling us that the "parent group" over these brands makes both, so they were basically the same stroller, different prints. She said that this "parent group" has had more recalls on their products in the last year than any other brand and if it were up to her, she would stick with Graco or Chicco. She was so incredible, and ended up easily talking us into the Chicco stroller; it's so user-friendly and by far the safest she showed us. It's a bit more modern looking, no patterns or anything, but we're really happy with it.

I think that's it for week number 9! Thanks for checking in!!


Sick...and tired...

Thursday, July 7, 2011 - Posted by Danielle at 10:54 AM
Not of being pregnant...just plain sick and tired!!! I had been feeling so great that I thought maybe I'd skate through without the morning sickness...nope. Two days ago I got the queasies at work, ended up sick twice, twice yesterday and kept thinking to myself 'I don't know how the girls who are sick ALL day for MONTHS do it. I'm still loving every moment of this experience, but its still no fun throwing up!!

I kept reading how important it is to find your 'trigger'-what makes you sick. Yesterday I realized the more I stared at my computer, the worse I felt. Through reading online, I realized that computers are actually a big contributor to being sick. Between the bright monitor and the 'strobe effect' that it has, it can make you sick. I also kept reading how good ginger is for the tummy...yuck!! I had one of the ginger preggie pops the other day...definitely contributed
to the queasies!! Anyway, yesterday I thought of ginger snap cookies. Mark was so great- he got me comfy in bed yesterday and ran to the store. He came back with 7-up, chicken noodle soup, animal crackers, and ginger snaps!!

Today I adjusted the brightness on the computer, taken some extra breaks from it and have munched on ginger snaps and I am WAY better! Thank goodness!

I have been SO tired the past few days...but a few extra naps never hurt!!

Everything is officially marked for the garage sale...all 5 years of accumulated stuff that was cluttering the soon to be nursery! Now as soon as we get the room cleared out and stuff sold, the sooner we can start decorating!!!! Say a little prayer for our sale to go well please..we've got lots to get rid of!!!

8 Weeks!

Sunday, July 3, 2011 - Posted by Danielle at 8:04 PM
Wow...8 weeks already!!! I can't even believe it! 2 months done already. I have had such a blessed first trimester. I have been amazed at how well I have done. I have had some "morning sickness" in the evenings, some dizziness, lots of cramping, but nothing like what I know some women endure.

I don't think I've mentioned our due date yet...February 11th...just in time for Valentine's Day!!

We have our first doctors appointment July 18th; 2 weeks from tomorrow. Until then, I'm going by everything I've read on nutrition, exercise and symptoms. Can't wait to see the doctor though. The gals I've talked with who have had kids before say that I'm already bigger at 8 weeks than they were at 10...one reason? Twins...and Mark has two sets in his family! Oh boy...

Baby Date

Posted by Danielle at 7:53 PM
In all the marriage/family/kid advice we've gotten, there's one thing that has stuck out to us - how important date nights are. Not that being with kids isn't wonderful, but we have heard over and over how important it is to get out, just the two of you and invest time into the marriage first.

We decided to get much better about our Friday night date nights, so last Friday, we went on a "baby date"!! We wandered through Motherhood Maternity, excited that I could finally actually enter the store rather than just peer through the windows! We bought a baby name book, and then ended at Babies 'R Us. We had planned to buy our first baby item while we were out, but ended up buying a bigger item than we had planned...

It was late at night, we finally made it back to the back of Babies 'R Us and found ourselves sitting in the most amazing, comfortable gliders imaginable. Long story short, we bought a glider! And it is fabulous...we figure for all the hours we'll spend in it, it better be comfortable and it is amazing!


First time parking in the "Expectant Mothers/Stork Parking".


By far the best glider....for just $800!! (We didn't buy this one...!!)

A Luxury

Posted by Danielle at 1:43 PM
I told my bosses. After a "Congratulations", Tom's reaction was, "So what are your plans?" I struggled with this question. In any of the times Mark and I had discussed what to say to this question, it was to tell him that I had no intent of anything changing. When the question was asked though, I struggled because I knew in my heart, that wasn't necessarily true. I knew in my heart that we are going to do every single thing possible for me to be able to be a stay at home mom and raise our children. As Mark talked me through it, he explained that we needed to tell them that so that if I ended up having to work, even if just to bridge a gap, then it would be available.

I struggled with this idea before we found out were were going to have a baby and each time before that when we decided to start trying. It was this reality that made me chicken out each time; the fact that there is no certainty in the idea of me being able to stay at home.

It's a luxury to stay at home and care for your children; and to have the money to support the family in the process. The more I think about it, the more it scares me, worries me and even saddens me that I don't know for sure that I'll be able to stay home. I fear the day that maternity leave ends and I have to leave my newborn with someone to care for them, love them, and experience "firsts" that I will never be able to see again. Whether I leave my baby with a stranger, a friend or even a family member, it's not me. I feel such a significant calling on my heart to be home with our children; I long for the day when I get to love on them, raise them up to be God-fearing, God-loving kids, play hide and go seek, go to the park, run errands, clean the house and do laundry...it all sounds so exciting to me...and I realize that is far from the case for many women in this world, which proves my point: some women are called to it, some aren't. I know I am.

Doing my devotion today, I came across a verse in Proverbs 16 that says, "Commit your actions to the Lord and your plans will succeed." If only everyday life was just that easy. The sad part is, it should be that easy. Handing this whole thing over to God should be the easiest, biggest relief. For me though, while I trust him to give me the desires of my heart, I am so passionate about this calling that I'm afraid to turn it over and forget about it in fear that it won't happen. I know most of the time it's your head that has to catch up with your heart. In this case, my heart already knows God's plan for me is perfect and that come February, I'll be content with where I'm at and that He'll give me the strength to pull through wherever we end up. In my head though, I want to think logically. My OCD kicks in and forces me to plan and plot and figure out every detail.

Another verse in Proverbs says, "We can throw the dice, but the Lord will determine where they fall." When it comes right down to it, I can plan and plot, but God's plans will prevail and I have to trust in that...and I'm trying...it's just hard.

Pregnancy, Birth...our thoughts

Posted by Danielle at 1:35 PM
I am overwhelmed with joy and contentment today. Sometimes you just have those extra special days where you can sit back and say, "It's a good day!!!" Despite the rain and dreariness outside, having to go get blood drawn this morning, and peeing 3 times before noon, I am so joyful today!!! Mark and I got up and got ready this morning together and I noticed that he went into the room that since having our home we have referred to as "the nursery." I said to him, "You realize you just went into the real nursery, right?" It was another moment where the reality of all of this sank in just a little bit more...in 7 short months, there will actually be a baby in there!!

Mark and I got into a big discussion last night. We talked about our philosophy and attitude towards pregnancy, labor and birth. I had been so frustrated yesterday with trying to find out what I could and couldn't eat, along with trying to get in the recommended servings of each food group and not weighing 2 tons at the end of this!! I had decided to go to Meijer on my lunch and pick up some lunch-ey, snack-ey stuff. On my way, I did a search for "easy pregnant lunches." The first thing I saw was that I shouldn't be eating lunch meat. To me, lunch meat seemed like a great, healthy snack - come to find out, I shouldn't be eating it. So, then began our discussion. I had read in one of my books that the goal of a natural childbirth and pregnancy is to give your baby every advantage. I believe that so many pregnancies today focus on what gives the mother the greatest advantage. No that the mother isn't important, but in my mind, I'd rather go through more, put up with more, give up more so that my baby has the advantage rather than me.

I contacted the instructor in our area for the Brio/Bradley birth classes and we are so excited to get started with them this October; they teach everything - pregnancy nutrition and exercise, stages of labor, training for the husband so that he can be your coach, as well as postpartum care, newborn care and breastfeeding. Can't wait!

Breaking the News

Posted by Danielle at 1:34 PM
We decided until things were confirmed by the doctor, we were going to tell a select few people - Mark's mom, my parents, and a few select friends. We went to church Father's Day morning after finding out the big news and Mark's mom joined us. We went to the parking lot afterwards, and I hope to never forget the moment of Mark saying - publicly! - for the first time, "Well, Danielle's pregnant!" Wow. Carol threw her arms in the air, began to cry and hugged us and congratulated us. We arrived back at home and Mark's phone rang; it was his friend Nate. He was on speakerphone and I heard him say, "Happy Father's Day!!" Mark got a puzzled look on his face, looked at me and said, "How does he know!?!?" He responded, "well...it's interesting you say that..." broke the news and Nate was so happy for us, as was Brett, who tried to text me "Congratulations" only to find out that she had congratulated another Danielle! Next came telling my parents. I had planned and plotted this one for awhile knowing how big of a deal it would be. We went to Kohl's before church that morning and bought a frame that said, "Now Showing" with a stock photo of an ultrasound. We put "Coming Soon!!" across the ultrasound, wrapped it up and when they got to the house, we said, "We can't leave yet! Presents first!" Dad opened his Father's Day gift and then we said we had one for the both of them...something we just couldn't pass up. They opened it, mom looked at it, immediately knew what it was and let out a loud scream...dad looked at it puzzled trying to figure out what Broadway play was coming soon that we got them tickets for!! Mom yelled at him "look at that picture - look at it what it is!!" Dad finally got it, they looked at me and he said, "You're pregnant?!" When I told them I was, they leapt from the couch, gave us hugs and congratulated us.

Telling grandma was fun, considering she now has 3 new grandbabies due within 6 months of each other! Telling each one of our friends was special in it's own way and we are so grateful to have such great family and friends to share in this with...thanks to each of you - you know who you are!

Big News...

Posted by Danielle at 1:00 PM
We are having a baby!!!! We absolutely could not be more thrilled and are so excited to embark on the great journey that lies ahead. We hope that through this blog, we can share this journey with our friends and family as well as journal about this incredible experience so that one day, our little one will know about his/her first 9 months!!

We have talked about this for so long. We have longed for this for so long. We have prayed for God's will in this area of our lives as we have known full-well, that in His timing, we would conceive and feel at complete peace with the new life we would embark on. For the past year, Mark has had this incredible, supreme faith that I just couldn't fathom. He had been ready for months to throw all caution to the wind, fully relying on God that he would provide for our every need. While it wasn't that I didn't also believe that to be true, I was the logical one...thinking insurance...thinking finances...thinking jobs. I just couldn't find a peace with it as early as he had. Then came May, 2011. Something clicked for me; if God has inspired us with this longing for a child, who am I to back away from the idea out of fear that we won't be provided for in the process? My God is bigger than insurance...bigger than finances...bigger than jobs. Mark and I have come through so much between military life, a layoff, Mark being a full time student, and in every scenario, by our logic, we could be in such a horrible situation...but God is good, God is faithful.

"Was it planned?" is what everyone keeps asking. In May, we had talked about not trying but not not trying either. We promised each other we weren't going to get our hopes up. We kept telling each other, "we aren't trying...remember?!" Inevitable, our hopes were up. I bought the early result tests and did lots and lots of googling. Then, we felt the let down of multiple big fat negatives. finally, I had decided to wait a few days...I would test again on Father's Day. Even though we weren't trying, my hopes were definitely up, on top of feeling like I had several of the symptoms. I took the test and winin a few seconds, looked at what is the saddest, single, lonely pink line I know of and I cried. I prayed and said, "God - I don't understand it, I'm sad about it, but I trust you and I know that your will is perfect." I gathered myself to go tell Mark the not-so-great news, got up and looked at the stick again and a faint second line had appreared! Then I began sobbing, ran upstairs, shook Mark awake, and he first looked at the "key" that tells you pregnant and not pregnant. When he realized what he was looking at he looked at me and said, "Well that's never happened before!!" We cried, we hugged, we kissed and we enjoyed the moment of knowing that our lives would be forever changed.

It's so much to take in. I still can't quite belive that our time is here. I still have a hard time with grasping it all and I know it hasn't fully sunk in yet.

Thankful. Blessed. Amazed. Loved. Favored. To realize the fact that we "tried without trying" for one month and conceived absolutely blows my mind. I prayed so long and hard that God would give us the desires of our heart; to raise up faithful, God-loving children. He did. In one month, He did. So many women in this world sturuggle and struggle to get pregnant, stay pregnant and some never get pregnant at all. I am SO thankful that God gave us no struggles in this area because I don't know that I could have bared it. I made a vow- not that I am naive in thinking that there won't be tough days in this, but for every woman out there who struggles to conceive, and never is blessed with this incredible experience - I will not complain. Through morning sickness all the way to contractions, I vow to do my very best to remain a positive attitude and enjoy every single moment of this.

God is good and He does bless those who call upon his name. As I think down the road of how this is all going to work out, I just remind myself that the God I serve is bigger and greater than any roadblock Satan can put in our path. God is our provider, our healer, our redeemer, our friend and our father and if I truly believe He is as big as I know He is, then I have to have the faith that backs that up.

Praise the Lord....we're having a baby!!!!


7 Weeks!!